What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see someone trying, someone showing up for themselves? Or do you immediately rattle off a list of “not enoughs”? I love social media for the community it creates but I also cringe when i hear and see how much negative self-comparison brews from people scrolling others’ feeds.

Just because someone else is doing the thing doesn’t mean that you aren’t too. Your level of success improving your nutrition, making more money or working on your relationship is NOT made bigger or smaller by someone else’s experience.

Think about that for a second. The other week I stood in my empty house after packing our material possessions into a POD and I was in awe of what my business afforded me and what I built! Before, I might learn how much someone else in my business made and I would think, why not me?

But standing in our living room, with the sun streaming in, I thought, YES, ME! I was about to set out on a 10-month worldwide tour with my family because I built something that allows me to work from anywhere. I had to strip down comparison and see through a lens that my life was just as successful as hers. In fact, I had to push through the murky lens create by social media to see that self-comparison didn’t serve me AT ALL.

That list of “not enoughs: not rich enough, not skinny enough, not made up enough, not successful enough, not fit enough, not loved enough- quickly became: I am exactly where I need to be. I am receiving the love and success that I allow myself. You can’t control much in life, but you can control the words you use to describe yourself and your experience.

That empty living room quickly became a blank canvas for me to explore in awe all that I have done and am doing, it was a mirror reflecting back to me what I’ve created and worked so hard for: emotionally and physically.

Her feed is filled with pretty bright colors, amazing moments and experiences, celebrations of success. But mine is too. Sweep that self-comparison out of your mind. Your experience is yours alone and its value doesn’t rise or fall depending on what you see someone else doing.